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1、课外阅读：Valentine'sDay,LoveandRosehttp://www.sina.com.cn2004/03/1720:34 英语辅导报 Valentine'sDayistheholidaywhenromanceissupposedtobloom;loveisintheair;androses,candy,andcardsarethepreferredpresentsoftheday.Well,whatabouttheother364daysoftheyear?HeidiReeder,assistantprofessorofcom
2、munications,attheUniversityofNorthCarolina,saysthatcouplesshouldputmoreeffortintothethingsthatarenecessaryformaintainingstrongloverelationships."Valentine'sDaycomesonceayear,andthequestionthatneedstobeansweredis,'Howdowekeeplovealive?'It'saquestionthatcouplesneedtoaskthemsel
3、vesandfindwaystoworkthrough." Oneofthemaintheoriesonlovestatesthatitismadeupofthreeprimarycomponents-intimacy,commitment,andpassion-shenotes.Alotofrelationships,though,tendtocontainjustoneortwoelements,andcouplesshouldlookatallthreeareastofindoutifanyneedtobenurtured.Intima
4、cyinvolvestalkinghonestlyanddisclosingoneselftotheotherperson,feelingcloseandconnected,andlisteningtoeachother."Basically,it'scommunicatingonanintimatelevel."Commitmentismakingthedecisionthatoneisinvestedintherelationshipanddoingthingsthatshowit.PassionisallthosethingsthatVa
5、lentine'sDayusuallyfocuseson-theromance,infatuation,excitement,desire. Reederbelievesthatintimacyandcommunicationareattheheartoflove.Wheneverpeopleareasked,"Whatislove?",thethingstheyoftencitearehonesty,openness,friendship,personalcloseness,andfeelingsof"oneness"andtogether
6、nessaselementsthatcontributetointimacy.Nothingcreatesintimacybetterthananhonestsharingofoneselfwithanotherperson,andthisinvolvescommunication.Communicationiscentraltoaloverelationship." Coupleswhohavebeentogetheralongtimeoftenmightbelievethattherelationshipisstagnatingandne
7、edstobereinvigorated.Inordertobringaboutthatrejuvenation,theyshouldtrytodosomenewthingsandsharesomenewexperiences."Whentheyplanthingsandenjoythemselvestogether,theycanexperienceafeelingoflearningandgrowingwiththisotherperson."Reederoffersthesesuggestionsonhowtheycanbettersee
8、kintimacythroughimprovedcommunications: *Letyourpartnerknowhowyoufeelifyou
