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1、2014届高考英语一轮复习话题阅读素材59 FourRulesforaSuccessfulMarriage Couplesusuallyaskforadvicewhentheyarejustaboutreadytothrowinthetowel.TheirLoveBankshavebeenlosingloveunitssolongthattheyarenowdeeplyinthered.AndtheirnegativeLoveBankaccountsmakesthemfeelveryuncomfortablejustbeinginth
2、esameroomwitheachother.Tobeinloveagainmeanstheymustre-depositalloftheloveunitsthatwerewithdrawn.Inordertodepositenoughloveunitstofallinlove,theymustfollowrulesthattheydon'tfeellikefollowing. TheRuleofCare:MeetYourSpouse'sMostImportantEmotionalNeeds Evenwhenthefeelingofl
3、ovebeginstofade,orwhenit'sgoneentirely,itcanberecoveredwheneveryoubothgobacktobeinganexpertatknowingeachother'sneedsandlearntomeetthoseneedsinawaythatisfulfillingtoyourspouse,andenjoyableforyou,too. TheRuleofProtection:AvoidBeingtheCauseofYourSpouse'sUnhappiness It'spoi
4、ntlesstodepositloveunitsifyouwithdrawthemrightaway.Soinadditiontomeetingimportantemotionalneeds,youmustbesuretoprotecttheLoveBankfromwithdrawalsbypayingattentiontoowyoureverydaybehaviormakeseachotherunhappy.Youandyourspousewereborntobeangry,disrespectful,demanding,annoyan
5、ddishonest.ThesearenormalhumantraitsthatIcallLoveBustersbecausetheydestroyaffection.Toeliminatethem,youwilldowhateverittakestoovercomethesedestructivetendenciesforyourspouse'sprotection. TheRuleofHonesty Revealtoyourspouseasmuchinformationaboutyourselfasyouknow--yourtho
6、ughts,feelings,habits,likes,dislikes,personalhistory,dailyactivities,andplansforthefuture.HonestyandOpennesscantriggerthefeelingoflove.Butitscounterpart,dishonesty,isoneofthemostdestructiveLoveBusters.Besides,honestyistheonlywaycoupleswillcometounderstandeachother.Toavoid
7、conflict,theysometimesdeliberatelymisinformeachotherastotheirfeelings,personalhistory,activities,andplans.Thisnotonlyleadstoafailuretomeetanimportantemotionalneed,andawithdrawalofloveunitswhenthedeceptionisdiscovered,italsomakesmaritalconflictsimpossibletoresolve.Afterall
8、,howcanyouandyourspousesolveaproblemifyourcardsarenotonthetable?Withouthonesty,theadjustmentstha
