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1、WhenIwasinmy20s,Isawmyveryfirstpsychotherapy(心理诊疗)client.IwasaPh.D.studentinclinicalpsychology(临床心理学)atBerkeley.Shewasa26-year-oldwomannamedAlex.NowAlexwalkedintoherfirstsessionwearingjeansandabigslouchy(宽松的)top,andshedroppedontothecouchinmyofficeandkickedoffherflatsandtoldmeshewa
2、stheretotalkaboutguyproblems.NowwhenIheardthis,Iwassorelieved.Myclassmategotanarsonist(纵火犯)forherfirstclient.AndIgotatwentysomethingwhowantedtotalkaboutboys.ThisIthoughtIcouldhandle.ButIdidn'thandleit.WiththefunnystoriesthatAlexwouldbringtosession,itwaseasyformejusttonodmyheadwhil
3、ewekickedthecandowntheroad."Thirty'sthenew20,"Alexwouldsay,andasfarasIcouldtell,shewasright.Workhappenedlater,marriagehappenedlater,kidshappenedlater,evendeathhappenedlater.TwentysomethingslikeAlexandIhadnothingbuttime.Butbeforelong,mysupervisor(导师)pushedmetopushAlexaboutherloveli
4、fe.Ipushedback.Isaid,"Sure,she'sdatingdown,"(她的对象很差劲)she'ssleepingwithaknucklehead(傻瓜),butit'snotlikeshe'sgoingtomarrytheguy."Andthenmysupervisorsaid,"Notyet,butshemightmarrythenextone.Besides,thebesttimetoworkonAlex'smarriageisbeforeshehasone.(结婚之前)"That'swhatpsychologistscallan"
5、Aha!"moment(顿悟时刻).ThatwasthemomentIrealized,30isnotthenew20.Yes,peoplesettledownlaterthantheyusedto,butthatdidn'tmakeAlex's20sadevelopmentaldowntime.(没错，现在人们结婚的年龄比以前大一些，但这并没有使Alex的20岁成为发展的搁浅期。)ThatmadeAlex's20sadevelopmentalsweetspot,andweweresittingthereblowing(挥霍)it.ThatwaswhenI
6、realizedthatthissortofbenignneglect(善意的忽视)wasarealproblem,andithadrealconsequences,notjustforAlexandherlovelifebutforthecareersandthefamiliesandthefuturesoftwentysometingseverywhere.Thereare50milliontwentysomethingsintheUnitedStatesrightnow.We'retalkingabout15percentofthepopulatio
7、n,or100percentifyouconsiderthatnoone'sgettingthroughadulthoodwithoutgoingthroughtheir20sfirst.(都要先经历过他们的20岁才能进入成年)Ifyouworkwithtwentysomthings,youloveatwentysomething,you'relosingsleepovertwentysomethings,Iwanttosee----Okay.Awesome,twentysometingsreallymatter.SoIspecializeintwenty
8、somethingsbecauseIbelievethatever
